Friday, September 17, 2010

A thought provoking question

Do you sometimes berate yourself? Call yourself fat / ugly / a pig / useless? This serves no useful purpose. It certainly won't boost your self confidence!

A friend of mine sent me an e-mail the other day. It was a list of thought provoking questions. The question that caught my attention was:

“If you had a friend who spoke to you the way you sometimes speak to yourself, how long would you stay friends?”

We all of us have our failings and weaknesses, especially when it comes to changing our eating habits and leading a healthier lifestyle. It can be difficult to keep on making those incremental changes and sticking with them, though it’s not impossible. We all have slip-ups and indulge in unwise food choices or overly large portions occasionally; but when we do, we can and should forgive ourselves.

Be kind to yourself. Don’t let mistakes disempower you, learn from them and move on.

You can find more questions at

A reader has pointed out that I have misquoted the original question. It should read:
"If you had a friend who spoke to you the way you sometimes speak to yourself, how long would you allow that person to be your friend?"
My apologies for misquoting.  17/09/10 5:55PM


Anonymous said...

Did you reword the question (1)deliberately or (2) because we all unconsciously paraphrase what we hear/read? The wording of the original question suggests that what the questioner means by "friend" is something other than the generally accepted meaning of the word.

Sphinx said...

This was an instance of unconscious paraphrasing as I didn't have the original text in front of me at the time of writing. My sincere apologies for misquoting. I would agree that a 'friend' like this does not fit the generally accepted meaning of the word, but verbal abuse is very common in our society. And we tend to accept it.
I have added a correction to the post.